Don’t look now I am being given topics to discuss! I’ve been asked to meditate on the word intolerance. Maybe this person meant just the behaviour, but the words that came to me are intolerance as a reaction and side effect. Have you noticed that many years ago you didn’t really know many, if any, people with allergies and reactions? Yet now every other person is allergic to practically everything? Normal things in our world we take for granted, but unbearable to others. Whether its food, chemicals, nature, animals, pollution and so it goes on.
You could clean more. You could systematically cut back certain foods, sussing them out. You could move house, move region. Go colder...go hotter. Run away from nature. Or is it that we should we be embracing it? Many, many years ago, humans were more connected to the seasons and the cycles of nature, connected to the earth and relying on it to survive. Now we seem to live almost apart from it not even acknowledging its existence. How very insulting to Mother Nature when she works so hard. We have separated from the planet that we actually live on, which is almost like fighting a part of ourselves. We all know there is a delicate balance within nature which can be disturbed by an introduced species (human being the worst), climate change and many other factors. As a result, loss of forests, species obliterated whether animal or plant, toxicity, even influence on weather. So doesn’t it go without saying that there is also a delicate balance within our own system and bodies? Not just influenced by the outside environment but on a conscious level, spiritual and emotional. We tend to eat the same food as each other from our culture. People with allergies cull food based on the latest medical research or news item on TV. Yet no two physical bodies are identical. The spiritual and emotional aspect is determined by the issues we have been faced with from this lifetime, past lives and karmic history. This is definitely a personal and individual thing as no two emotional bodies are identical. What about the here and now? Did an allergy or reaction come about recently (not at birth)? So the burning question is... what are you really intolerant to? The environment or home you live in makes you sick. Or is it the situation you are living in that’s making you sick? A relationship? ... a memory of something bad that happened years or centuries ago? Sneezing fits in the workplace but you don’t sneeze anywhere else? Suffering with pains in neck and head, when you are around a certain person or even at the same event every year? The key is to start noticing the patterns of behaviour. What is the common element each time? Is it the same person, same place, same behaviour from the other person that is coincidentally occurring. What emotions are being triggered at that moment or just before the reaction of puffy/blotchy/itchy/sneezy or any other of the annoying dwarfs. We need to reignite the relationship between us and the very ground we walk on, the air we breathe and the food we consume. Go for a walk in nature regularly, especially if you live in a city or spend far too much daylight in front of a computer. (However, take a sinus tablet if you suffer with hay fever!) Get dirt on your hands and feel its energy for growing and feeding plant life. If you don’t have a garden, then use pots. Grow your own vegies or herbs and eat them, recognising that connection. The one thing that is so apparent no matter where we go, is the age of nature and how trivial our own problems are in this minute of time. When faced with trees older than ourselves, that have weathered many adversities, such as lightning, floods, fire, insect infestation, and even man himself hacking away with disrespect. We are suddenly humble in the profound and intense energy of such an ancient being. Nature itself could almost be compared to humans in their differing moods and variety of kind. The group of trees, that look and feel like a community of beings. The single tree, bleeding sap from a gaping wound. The trunk that learns that to exist in this strange world it must grow and bend around other nature beings, looking distorted but surviving none the less. Yet all co-existing with each other and accepting, no matter what species, or how much they look different from each other. I know this person probably meant intolerance as having the incapacity to endure other people or events etc. But obviously I was meant to touch on a different definition of the word since this poured out at the speed of light.
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We are so caught up in our drama and thinking that everything will just stop if we didn’t race around fulfilling our self imposed responsibilities. How funny our egos can be, when the fact is that the earth went on well before we humans arrived, and it will keep on going if we all vanished from its surface. Basically, we are just a blimp on the radar of earth’s history. If you believe in reincarnation then we are a few blimps on the radar of earth’s history.
I believe we all have control issues to some degree, there are just different levels of it based on our past experiences in life and past lifetimes. It really is based on fear of being helpless. For me it’s about making sure that I am safe and secure. Or that something is done right in my eyes, for fear of it going wrong and being a bigger problem. I remember as a child not wanting other kids to play with my toys in case they broke them. I was so possessive and protective of my belongings and still seem to be. Not sure where this specific need actually comes from but I do feel it’s quite deep seated, probably a past life!
Controlling can come in many forms, not just environment but other people, even our selves. Manipulation, domination, oppression and violence are obviously the worst kinds. We see that on the news each week. During the human evolution process it was critical at times to control the environment to give a better chance at survival. That’s centuries of instinct we carry in our cellular memory. The cellular memory stores conscious and unconscious patterns of behaviour through many lifetimes. This imprint is hard to clear or reprogram just as any habit is, especially when the cellular memory acts independently to the brain. I think we all suffer with a small dose of controlling in some form or another. The controller doesn’t trust and to control another person gives them a sense of power and ego boost. I’ve seen situations of women trying to control the man in their relationship because they are so terrified of losing him, monitoring where he goes and who he speaks to, but this behaviour can cause the relationship to break up anyway. Nobody likes to be owned as a possession. There are those with the misguided notion of thinking they are always right and must organise everyone for fear they can’t do anything themselves. Giving the controller a feeling of being important and needed, after all, everyone likes to feel needed. They mean well, they think they are doing people a favour. The side effects of this, is the fact you are training people to be completely dependent on you, what happens if you are not around anymore? Not to mention the energy drain on your own system. When you finally decide not to help anymore, guess what, you are stuck with them. Forcing control usually has the opposite effect on people than was intended. A sales rep forces a product onto you and won’t let you get a word in, or a parent over lectures a child, a wife who nags their point. What happens? ... resistance. They may comply in the first instance, probably to shut you up. But in the end they are not convinced or persuaded on your point. They probably shutdown halfway through the spiel, just check for the glazing over of the eyes, you know they have vacated their brain during the course of the conversation. Parents sometimes need to control the actions of teenagers for fear that they will fail miserably without their advice, a bit of ego there I think. Arguing to the bitter end that you are right? Even more embarrassing behaviour if the person is actually incorrect. Why is it so important to be right no matter what? Maybe earlier in life the person was not taken seriously, or constantly corrected into submission. Here’s a thought... is withholding information a form of control I wonder? A way of having control of yourself, and your own situation, especially if its actually floundering. Keeping others in the dark can feel like you are in control or a sense of power. Mmm, interesting concept and one I will have a good think about in regards to myself. I think back to childhood where kids are kept in the dark all the time, ‘Children should be seen and not heard’. Which takes away the child’s chance to express themselves or even defend themselves if needed. Kids are curious and want to learn, need to learn. So stifling them with adult control is quite damaging. Everyone has an opinion no matter how old they are. I feel its the guardians role to teach the child to express it with kindness and manners but not stop them talking and leaving them in a silent, powerless world. If this is ringing bells from your childhood then I guess its time to take back the reigns. Give yourself permission now to ask questions and speak up. Within the throat is an energy centre called the throat chakra. In most healings I do on clients that chakra is the most congested from unspoken words just stewing and fermenting away. It can cause the feeling of throat closing up, sore throats, neck and shoulder pain even losing the voice. So go somewhere quiet on your own or wind up the windows in your car turn up the radio volume and scream your heart out. Let it all out, years of pent up frustration. Yes the oncoming traffic will wonder why someone is driving around with their mouth wide open, but who cares? Look for blue crystals to wear around your neck. Wouldn’t it be a great feeling to not need to control? To be confident in any outcome and surrender to the Universe trusting it knows what its doing. A weight would just lift off the shoulders and a feeling of total freedom. But to loosen that grip we need to release the negative emotions like fear, anger or anxiety. Release the need for a power trip if that is your thing. Forgive everyone. Wow this was intense, but then this behaviour is intense and we don’t like to look at the shadow self within all of us. |
AuthorTerri Graham is first and foremost an Artist and a Healer. Archives
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