Its been quite a year for most and we know its just the start of the period of change and new evolution with the powerful planetary alignment coming in December 2012. Change is not easy to experience and quite often we fight it preferring the ‘better the devil you know’ approach. Afterall, what if it gets worse for allowing the change into your life? But what if things got better? Thats the whole surrender to the Universe philosophy Ive mentioned before.
I know that I am quite adept at stuffing things up. How many times in life do we make the wrong decision, say the wrong thing, do something unfortunate and end up in a desperate situation of wanting it fixed. But even at that point we still wont hand over the reigns of our life to anyone, not even a professional. Why? Because we think they might stuff it up!! Funny when you think about it, talk about the pot calling the kettle black! The confronting year that has been, contained some painful items for some. And most of those items have had the sense of loss behind them. Loss of a pet. Loss of a human. Loss of a relationship. Loss of income. Loss of the ability to be well and function. Loss of faith. Or just genuinely being lost. Yes it hurts and the lack of control over the situation makes people feel helpless and then its easy to give up or give in to fear. Thats when we stumble in our progress because we let fear interfere! Allow yourself to feel the pain just so you can acknowledge it and move through it. But the fear is when you doubt yourself, others and the Universe. Ive experienced so many losses in my 44 years, more than is usual. But the knowledge and experience of it has not made me an expert on it. The pain and shock, anger and resentment lasts as long as it needs to, for people to get through it. Its different for each person, no two are the same, so dont compare yourself with others. In fact, its even different within yourself. Some losses are quicker to get over than others and may not even make sense to you. Why was it worse to lose a job than a relationship, or why was it sadder for the dog or ferret to die than a relative? So dont compare yourself with yourself either, emotion is not logical. It just is what it is. With loss also comes regrets where we start to mentally list where we fell short or what could of been different, to change the final outcome. The old adage ‘everything happens for a reason’ is very true but hard to hear at the time of the pain. Even if you say it to yourself for comfort, it somehow sounds so hollow. And even more annoying when someone else says it in a bid to make you feel better. Ive experience loss many times as I said, and am facing it in the immediate future in many forms. I think its worse when you know its coming and cant stop it. But I guess when looking at this overall picture, Ive come to the conclusion that its all directed towards the significant 2012 and clearing space to allow room for new developments. Not to mention the old karmic scales from past lives and lessons needing to be learnt and relearnt. Obviously all this emotion makes us human. We are hardest on ourselves than on anybody else. But remember, we are just souls having a human experience and maybe its time to lighten up on ourselves. Yes its important to forgive others in order to release negative blockages. But lets not forget ourselves on that forgiveness list. Maybe this Xmas should be not a time wholly and soully for family, friends or religion, but a little bit of time just for ourselves to reflect, forgive and love ourselves. Be kind to our inner child and let him/her play and be acknowledged. Make sure that this precious moment is just for you. Too many people live wholly for others and lose themselves along the way. Thinking that if they do this they will be popular or loved more. Its not doing yourself a favour in your own development though. So my Xmas Wish for you (and myself) is to give yourself the gift of attention, to be real to yourself, feel what you need to and reward yourself for giving you a moment of your time.
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It has occurred to me many times how challenging it is to deal with physical pain. I have watched others around me put up with it every day as if it is a normal state of being. As I write this now I am trying to overcome yet another migraine. There are a couple of reasons for the recurring head pain, one I can fix with meditation, the other I have to ride out, not to mention any permanent damage I have sustained from the 6 concussions. I remember my mother suffering day after day with neck pain, obviously in absolute agony, but I didn’t really understand what that was like until it happened to me. I actually feel quite bad now that I was not more sympathetic or supportive. Pain can make you feel sick to the stomach and barely able to function. It changes your personality and interferes with quality of life and it can have a roll on effect on those that have to live or work with you.
It’s hard for people who have never experienced a lot of physical pain to get an understanding of how all consuming it can be, especially when it is usually an invisible problem. The sufferer appears strong and healthy on the outside, so it’s easy to forget that sometimes symptoms cannot be seen. It is challenging trying to explain to family, friends or work colleagues that they can’t just make plans without finding out how you are feeling first, or if it’s within your capabilities in the first place. There is help like Pain Management Support Groups where other long term pain suffers meet for discussion and support. When dealing with constant pain for so long it can make a person feel very alone in their cocoon of agony, feeling like they are an inconvenience to those around them. These groups serve a great purpose in helping the sufferer to not feel quite so alone. Everyone’s pain barrier is different to each other, in other words, some can take a greater degree of pain more than another person. But at the end of the day, it is still going to take a toll on the persons physical, emotional and mental abilities. The state of mind is the thing that has the most impact. Chronic pain can lead to depression and worse. It can make you feel powerless and frustrated. It’s the easiest thing in the world to concentrate on the pain and how it is interfering with everything, thinking of the things that you cannot do. Sounds trite, I know, but it is crucial to think of the things that you can do. As the list grows, celebrate each achievement with joy and gratitude. The law of attraction, what you send out is what you get back, means that if you are grateful for those achievements, more will come your way. I have watched first hand someone die sooner than the diagnosis because they gave up and just waited for the end to arrive. A massive learning curve for me and the start of my own self development and heading towards the New Age Hippie stage of my life. One thing I know to be true is that when you help someone else, you will immediately feel better within yourself no matter how much pain you are in. Obviously it is important to use the advice of your GP or specialist but alternative healing is something that I have always fallen back on. I take far too many pain killers and worry what this is doing to my healthy organs. Massage helps the body release natural endorphins so I don’t need as much pain medication. It is something that if you can’t afford financially, you might be able to find a generous and caring friend or relative who can help you. Meditation is a fabulous way to focus on something other than pain, hard when it has a grip on you full throttle, but worth a try anyway. Just the fact that you are concentrating on breathing and putting oxygen through your system is a good way to cleanse everything, bringing you back to the basics of life. Eating foods with less artificial colours, flavours and preservatives is another cleanser. Don’t forget to laugh as well, spend time with a funny friend or watch a funny movie. It is no fallacy that laughter is the best medicine, it really does lift the spirit, even for just a minute. Spending time in nature, even if it’s just sitting in the garden and watching the insects, the plants and the branches moving, breathing in the oxygen that the plants are so generously supplying you with. In nature energy just is. It doesn’t struggle or worry or even argue. It has a flow of creating and an ability of releasing, where necessary, stuff that no longer serves it. Let’s copy this ancient being so that we may also get into the flow of beautiful energy and be sacred and divine. Breathe deep and commit fully to this life and future lives. Allow yourself to reach out and feel the bliss of existence. |
AuthorTerri Graham is first and foremost an Artist and a Healer. Archives
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